So often we feel unworthy of love, like who we are and what we do are not important. We may feel like others would be better off without us. I know it’s dating me a little, but It’s a classic. “It’s A Wonderful Life” is about just such a person. George Bailey felt as if his family and friends didn’t need him in their lives. He even contemplates taking his own life as his world just falls apart around him. I know you know that feeling. We’ve all wondered at some point whether our families and friends would even miss us if we were gone. We don’t feel worthy of the love and attention of good friends, loving family or maybe even that special someone. And the more we think we are unworthy, the less we will want to participate in relationships because of fear, guilt, and shame. How could we possibly be good enough to deserve good things?
God wants us to remember that He is there when we are feeling like this. Psalm 43:18 says, “ The Lord is near to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” The God of heaven and earth, who cares about the birds of the air (Matthew 6:26) cares about YOU. Psalms 147:3 says, “He heals the broken hearted and binds their wounds.” Doesn’t that just blow your mind? Almighty God, Creator of heaven and earth, Builder of all things, Commander of the Army of the Lord, Everlasting Father, Healer, Judge of All the Earth, Mighty One, Strong Tower…THAT God cares for us! For YOU! Seriously, my brain cannot even comprehend that a God so big, so mighty and so GREAT cares for me. But He does.
Not only does He care, not only is He present for you to heal your broken heart, He finds value in you, He loves you. “Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you” (Jeremiah 31:3). “But God, who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ … that in the ages to come He might show the exceeding riches of His grace in His kindness toward us in Christ Jesus” (Ephesians 2:4–7). “Can a woman forget her nursing child, and not have compassion on the son of her womb? Surely they may forget, yet I will not forget you” (Isaiah 49:15). He sent His only son to die on a cross because He loved you.
Additionally, listen to your support system. Believe your friends and family when they tell you how capable and strong you are. When they tell you the good things that you deserve believe them. Let go of those negative feelings and recognize when you are adding value based on your talents and strengths. You may sit there thinking about how you don’t add value to those who love you, but God has spoken a different truth.
It’s important to cling to the truths that God has given us to battle our negative thoughts. God knew that we would feel these things and He provided truths for us to remember. Cling to His promises. You can even think about “It’s a Wonderful Life” and remember how George got to see his family and friends without him in their lives. They did need him. He made their lives better, happier, more fulfilled. So when Satan comes to you and tells you you are not enough and you are undeserving, tell him to get behind you because God has said otherwise. If the Almighty God of heaven and earth has said you are worthy who can dare to say otherwise?